The Other Side: Notes on the Ninth Month

A girl with a curl.

A girl with a curl(ish).

Even though we all know that 40 weeks actually equals ten months rather than nine (or at least those of us who have actually been pregnant know this, as that last month is probably the most miserable making us acutely aware of the passage of time), I can’t help but think that Miss C has now been out for roughly the same amount of time that she was in. She’s been in the world for 2012 and 2013, which makes her quite a woman of the world. It’s funny to me how much I groaned and moaned and felt sorry for myself during the more vomit-y moments of my pregnancy. Now that she’s here, I wish I could indulge myself and take a moment to nap or watch TV all day when I’m not feeling my best, but a crawling exploring baby doesn’t really afford me those moments.

I wouldn’t have it any other way.

A cabbage leaf makes a good hat.

A cabbage leaf makes a good hat. (As does a tissue box. Bonus points for the reference.)

These last nine months have been rich and scary and wonderful. This small girl has transformed from a wiggling ball of sugar to a person who likes things, who knows me, and who dances and yells when she needs me. She has preferences and is hinting at the possibility of eventually forming opinions. I am so proud. Nothing she does goes unnoticed. I swell with happiness every time she discovers something new.

Little assistance necessary.

Little assistance necessary.

And she’s been discovering a lot. Crawling is passe. Now that she’s mastered it, she’s pulling up all by herself on sofas and coffee tables. She even shows a little bit of indignation when we put her in her scooter chair because she can go faster without its assistance and she knows it. She can feed herself her bottle now. When she reaches her milestones, I often get melancholy, but I like it that she can feed herself at least partially now because it gives me a couple extra moments to meander over my own coffee. Independence is good for everyone.

And words. There are words. Even though she’s unable to say them herself, she knows and responds to “breakfast”, “lunch”, “dinner”, “snack”, “bottle”, “bath”, “change”, “daddy”, “mommy”, “nap time”, “hello”, “goodbye”, and “car ride”. (She also responds to “Gangnam Style” but that doesn’t exactly make me look like the best parent.) B and I will likely start signing with her too, so if you have any experience with baby signs, please let me know in the comments because we need to start somewhere.

111

She found all the shells at Bubby’s house.

She literally started waving at us and other people overnight. When we were on the road for Christmas, we always stopped at Panera Bread for lunch because duh, it’s Panera and it’s the best EVER. Every time we went in, she waved at everyone and smiled and often squealed. I have no idea how she acquired the waving skill because it’s not something B or I really showed her how to do, so I guess it’s instinctual. Is it lame that I think she’s a genius whenever she waves at us and others? I think she’s a genius most of the time not because I’m overly doting but because I just can’t believe I CREATED this girl. It is amazing to me that at one point she didn’t exist and now she does. And not only does she exist, but she exists well and she is achieving things. Gah.

Strangers and extra activities are kind of a scary thing with her right now. We worked really hard to get her in a routine that she could depend on and to give her safety and security in her interactions, so it was only a matter of time until a deviation from those routines would scare her a little or at least put her in a tizzy. When we left her for an overnight visit with my mom while we were in Memphis, she had a hard time adjusting for the first couple hours (as did we). But eventually she realized that she was safe and loved so she relaxed. She is surrounded by people who love her and she knows it.

Taken approximately 11 1/2 hours into Christmas. It was a long day but she (and Grammy) were good sports.

Taken approximately 11 1/2 hours into Christmas. It was a long day but she (and Grammy) were good sports.

I wrote about her dancing a few posts back, but dancing and swaying are a big enough thing for her that it’s worth repeating. She loves music and tempo and sways to the beat even when I’m doing something rhythmic like using the electric mixer or hammering a nail. I am planning on doing a post soon about some of the music she likes, which I think will offer an interesting postscript to the posts I wrote during my pregnancy about the music I imagined playing for her. I’m also contemplating putting up a video of her on the blog. I’ve been hesitant to do so in the past because I’m trying to define boundaries about what I will and won’t share here. Any thoughts (especially from the mommy bloggers) are, as always, appreciated.

So nine months. Three more and then she’s practically in college. I’m holding on. Happy nine months on this crazy planet, sweet girl.

We are the goodest.

We are the goodest.

About these ads

70 thoughts on “The Other Side: Notes on the Ninth Month

  1. So much to respond to…first, she is of course gorgeous and brilliant. Yes, she will leave boys in the dust, but boys like the dust so that’s ok. With one of each, I can say they are completely different animals and I never would have said that before my son was born.

    Signs! Yes!! Do signs!! My daughter didn’t speak a word when she came home at 13 mo. She had never even heard English before. She knew what things were in her own little head, but had no idea what to call them to get us to give them to her. So, sign language. She learned signs for “eat”, “drink” and “more.” She was still in diapers so we didn’t need the potty sign. She made up her own sign for nap/nigh-night. Yes, my 13 month old child told me when she wanted to go to sleep. So cute. She also had a sign for watching TV, the “jazz hands” Blues Clues thing. It was so funny!

    She finally started talking about six weeks after she came home, but didn’t really say much more than Mom, Dad and Hi for a while, so the signs really helped.

      • Well, this is about 10 years ago, but I think there was a book that was floating around. I used signs that my friends were using. I bet you can find something at your library…that’s where 10 year old books go to die, isn’t it? Or you could check the Internet, but then you miss the opportunity to introduce Wee Cee to the library and proper library etiquette

  2. Oh Emily, she continues to be a beauty, full of light and love. I knew she was smart the first time I saw her picture. You can see it in her eyes. She’s wise and very plugged in. Such joy!!
    Selfishly I want you to post videos of her but I understand your concern for boundaries. I really do. I wish this blogging technology had been around when my kids were little (gosh, I hope it wasn’t or I just sounded like the biggest idiot! haha!) I think Cee will love to have all of this documentation. If there was ever any reason to post more of her, that would be it.
    Happy New Year to Miss Cee!
    The picture of her feeding herself and the one with Grandma… Precious.

    • Hehe I don’t think blogging really existed in a way that we know it until like 2003. Then again, I’m not exactly on the cutting edge of technology so what do I know? Blind leading the blind over here! I’ll inbox you more videos if I decide against posting them here ;)

  3. Emily, thanks for sharing these milestones. Happy nine months to Ms. Cee — she is beautiful and so glad she enjoyed her stay in Memphis. Love your new design of your blog — I’ve been following you long enough to remember that bright yellow and red (also cool). :).

    • Thanks, Brig! We are seriously contemplating moving back to Memphis because right now our lives would make a lot more sense there. A lot a big decisions need to be made in order for us to make that step, but I have faith that things will pan out. We’ve been praying a lot about it in the past year and it seems like things are falling into place to move back.

      I think I may go back to the yellow and red in the summer. I just kind of wanted the blog to have a wintry look.

  4. Nine months–and all those words! Forget the baby signs. You won’t need them.

    As far as boundaries… well, I’m trying to figure that out myself. The creepy thing is that cute, innocent, completely-clad pictures of my daughter and posts with innocuous titles like “Meet my Sweet Girl” turn on the pornbots. Not the kind of URLs you want to see referring to your blog.

    So, I guess, do what feels safe and won’t embarrass her (too much) later? The creeps will be creepy no matter what. Stupid creeps.

    • Thanks, Kylie! I should clarify that she’s not actually saying those words, but she definitely knows them. ;D

      You raise some excellent points about sharing our life here on the ol’ Intertron. Those are my exact fears, that the creeps will find us. I don’t really fear for our physical safety but I want her childhood to be pure and untainted with the lurking of bots.

      • It IS creepy.

        RE: Baby signs. I used a few with my daughter, but she started talking so early (around 11 months) that we didn’t end up needing them. For my son, they’ve been really helpful. All Done, More, Thank You, and Please have been the most useful (and charming). There are books and videos, and many communities have classes (which are nice because you can get out of the house and meet other parents).

        You’ll think that you’ll remember everything, but you won’t. Write the cute stuff down!!

  5. Aw Emily, you’re such a good madre. It’ll be a great thing for Miss C to look back at your words of adoration towards her. It’s good that you’re hanging onto every little moment because I hear they fly by…!
    As for signs, I saw that one of my friends on facebook taught their baby the sign for “more” so if they wanted more food they could have some. Idk just a cool idea I guess!
    Anyway, congrats to C for making it this far in the world! She’s already survived her first Apocalypse!

  6. I used signs more with the Padawan because I was providing in home care to a friend who was deaf and disabled, so we signed constantly. “Finished,” “more,” “eat,” are the ones I recommend most!

  7. Treasure every moment. They grow up so fast. It seems like you blink and another phase of your child’s life has passed.

    Oh, and bad form on the Gangnam Style thing. Bad form, indeed.

  8. We’ve done signs with Doodle since he was itty bitty. I just started with some basics I knew from working in elementary special education, like “more,” “milk,” “eat,” “all gone,” “mommy,” and “daddy.” Now he knows probably two hundred signs or more, and consequently so do I! Baby sign and ASL are a little different, so if you want to continue sign while she grows up to try and foster a second language, I recommend sticking to ASL – I find a lot of our new signs at lifeprint.com – but otherwise just find a cute baby sign book and work on one or two at a time. Heck, even look for one in board book form so she can gaze at baby pictures signing to her, too! We just signed to him every word we remembered as we spoke, and he started trying to duplicate our motions as he tried to repeat our words. Now he will hand me his hands when he wants to know how to sign something. :)

  9. Emily,
    A life changer… with all its ups and downs and challenges, my kids have enriched my life.

    I was reading about the words she can’t say, but understand… Have you thought about teaching her sign language? Our daughter picked it up quickly, and this is how we communicated for the first few months. Even today, at almost three, she will sign language “thank you”, “bath” and “more”…
    Merry 2013, Emily, to you and yours.
    Eric

    • Emily,
      And then I thought: Le Clown, how about reading Emily’s post carefully, without skipping a paragraph? You would have seen she mentioned teaching her daughter sign language. ANYWAY… Sara is a magnificent™ resource if you need a few pointers….
      Le Clown

  10. I’d definitely recommend teaching Wee Cee to sign (and yourself — that helps). Some kids pick it up really quickly and it helps reduce conflict/frustration in communication. Plus when they get older and you need to secretly communicate in public, it’s a good tool to have. Your local library will have lots of books and resources on this.
    Congrats on hitting so many milestones on the ‘outside.’

  11. Episode VI just hit 10 months. We started working on his college application letters just this past weekend.

    “No food for you until you can spell ‘STANFORD’!!!!”

  12. What a brilliant baby! And gorgeous too! Love the cabbage hat. I never saw the value of signs because from the stage C is at, its useful for perhaps another 6 to 9 months before actual words for the things she was signing will emerge. And anyway, there are some benefits to not being able to understand what the baby is saying, like when she wants to say “I want jell-o” after already having much more than she should be having.

  13. I’m not a momma so I may have absolutely no idea what I’m talking about, but I used to babysit a little boy about 10 months old that did signs with his parents – and they were FANTASTIC for me as the sitter! We watched his Signing Time dvd over and over and he had learned a few more every time I watched him. “Milk”, “hungry”, “more”, “potty”, and “shoes” were his most common ones. (“Shoes” didn’t help me out much, but he really liked his new sneakers…)

    On a side note, this is my first baby advice EVER!! (You’re welcome to tell me never to give any again!)

    http://www.clevershoppers.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&products_id=13010&utm_source=googlemerchant&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=google_product&gclid=CIzip6_nz7QCFWrZQgodbz4A4Q

  14. Beautiful!!!
    I only hope Gangnam Style isn’t a gateway for her, leading her deeper down a path of Achy Breaky Heart, Electric Slide, and *shudder* the Macarena

  15. Oh good I’m not the only one who lets my daughter watch Gangnam Style lol
    My 14 month old is *obsessed* with it. Actually I think we overused it and now she’s sick of it =P
    Some of the easiest signs to do at first are “milk” and “more” those were my daughters first 2 signs. We are still working on additional signs (other than waving)
    Once we were grocery shopping and “Bye Bye Bye” starting playing over the loudspeakers and she started waving and giggling.. I felt so proud! She recognized the words “bye” in the song and waved in response! Haha.

Now you can hold the magic talking stick.

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s